It’s so many feelings all at once.
You’re very happy. But really tired all the time.
You love playing with your kid but you want some break too.
You want to do the best you can but you do enjoy help from around.
You love the laughs and smiles and giggles and jokes and hugs and kisses and cute communications but sometimes, “A little silence please? I’m really unwell, honey.”
You are proud of them when they go around the house by themselves without being scared or calling out your name but that’s scary on a whole new level. “Why is it so silent?!”
You are also proud of yourself for changing so many things you thought you’d never for anyone but it’s like they’ll copy ANYTHING you say or do. So you aaalways have to be careful.
You feel good about making the right decisions for your kid but there’s always some self doubt. Could you do it any better?
There are people who’ll uplift you and make you feel great as a parent. But there are also people who’ll make their life motto to tell you and, if not you, then surely all those around you that basically suck at parenting.
Sometimes you can happily defend yourself or even be completely okay with ignoring them. But sometimes these things will get to you and you’ll start questioning yourself.
It’s so many things to think about. There’s so much to do, not do, learn, change, teach, preach… God!!!
…… sigh……
What I’ve learnt in my little experience.. is to surround myself with people I trust. People who won’t lie to me just coz they know me. People who won’t say something cheesy just to hurt me. But people who I can trust with the truth. Who trust me with my decisions but can openly call me out when I’m wrong. They can guide me and still support me if I decide to go in the opposite direction.
That helps.
Oh no. It doesn’t solve the overwhelming-ness.
It just makes it easier. Hmm a lot easier 🙂