I believe whatever little or big a problem anyone has is a problem and nobody should consider it little. For somebody who is attached to a friend or even a pet, anything bad related to them will affect him/her. For someone who has an emotional attachment with a stationary box because his/her grand father gave it before his death, losing any part of it will matter. Just because you and I don’t have the same life and problems doesn’t mean your or my problems are insignificant. Being empathetic is a basic of peaceful life.
But…
Those who are just ‘sad’ like forever sad and ‘realizing or not realizing always complaining’ like whenever you talk to them are the category 1 or 2 types; category 1 being a bit harder than 2.
I have always felt the need for people to do something about what makes them sad. At least try. So you can know in your heart that you didn’t just let go of yourself and your life purposes but instead took charge of it. What good will only crying over the calamity that befell you do? (I mentioned only coz come on we’re humans, we feel sad, we cry)
A good friend of mine goes through what is basically ‘domestic abuse’ but doesn’t realize it half the times and the other half she just…. I’m not sure what word to use…. is okay? lets go? is surviving? believes this is how it is? I’m not sure. I wouldn’t dare tell her about her rights when she can’t even take a firm stand against foul language being used in front of kids (and so they use it too and everybody laughs it off as ‘cute’) :neural: I tried to tell her to make her husband sit and talk to him kindly with love and respect about how everybody treats her as a cook and maid. But she says ah well it’s okay leave it. (her case is a bad one and I’m not here to state her story)
Another friend would just be sad about how her mother and sisters were not supportive of her and had trust issues with her, how they would suspect her use of cellphone, how they wouldn’t trust her friends etc.
me: have you ever done something your parents didn’t like and you knew it?
her: yes, many times.
me: do you use cellphone in the wrong ways?
her: hehe yeaahh.
me: are your friends nice and you trust them?
her: now that i think of it, no.
😯
Eventually she changed her life. Thank you Lord!
What we need to realize is life doesn’t always go as we want it to and people don’t always respond the way we imagined in our heads (I mean I imagine it all in my head, don’t you?) and we get devastated by how things turned out to be. Which is normal and completely okay. What’s not okay is us letting go and not chasing our dreams and us not taking control of our lives.
If you’re not married and live in a family who is always fighting, learn to laugh at them and yourself (not insultingly).
If you didn’t get admission in the field you wanted and it was your life long dream, learn to accept it as a reality, a part of life and prove to yourself that you can’t be beaten just by that. Select the second best option or create one.
If you’re living a life full of financial troubles, learn to buy things from cheap places that look great and still save money so you can buy something expensive a few months later. Learn to make happy friends who live in the moment, get some skills and try to earn through them.
If you’re trying so hard to stabilize your family and no matter what you do you never move much ahead, learn to be thankful about not going backwards and appreciate those who appreciate your efforts and make them happy.
If your car’s tire got punctured (just any daily problem), be happy and thankful at least you didn’t hurt anyone and you’re okay and that it didn’t get worse.
We need to learn to be happy. We need to learn to accept life and people around us as they are. We need to learn to be able to deal with disagreements. We need to learn to say ‘no’ respectfully. We need to love ourselves, our lives, our relations, our things. We need to learn to take control of things as soon as we get hit. We need to learn to be strong while being sensitive and weak. We need to learn!
Surround yourself with positive people, people who are happy and who make others happy.
It’s not like if you learn to take control of life or be happy, there won’t be any other problem. There will always be problems. We just need to believe in ourselves and act and to learn to not panic and focus on the ‘to do’ more.
candidlearner 